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Why He Keeps You Around Even If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship

Why He Keeps You Around Even If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship

 

Why He Keeps You Around Even If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship

 

Are you in a relationship with a guy who you know isn’t all in?

 

He may tell you that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, but then he still wants to spend time with you. He may tell you, and sometimes seem to show you, that he really likes you, even if he doesn’t like you ‘like that.”

His actions leave you absolutely dumbfounded as to how he is feeling. And he probably makes you feel like you’re a yo-yo — you’re being constantly pushed away and pulled back in.

 

You may sometimes feel like you’re starting to lose your mind from the non-stop mixed messages this guy sends.

“Why does he keep me around,” you ask, “if he doesn’t want a relationship?”

There are a number of reasons why a guy will keep you around even if he doesn’t want a relationship with you

“Why does he keep me around,” you ask, “if he doesn’t want a relationship?”

There are a number of reasons why a guy will keep you around even if he doesn’t want a relationship with you !

Are you in a relationship with a guy who you know isn’t all in?

 

He may tell you that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, but then he still wants to spend time with you. He may tell you, and sometimes seem to show you, that he really likes you, even if he doesn’t like you ‘like that.”

His actions leave you absolutely dumbfounded as to how he is feeling. And he probably makes you feel like you’re a yo-yo — you’re being constantly pushed away and pulled back in.

You may sometimes feel like you’re starting to lose your mind from the non-stop mixed messages this guy sends.

“Why does he keep me around,” you ask, “if he doesn’t want a relationship?”

There are a number of reasons why a guy will keep you around even if he doesn’t want a relationship with you.

 

Here are 5 of the most common:

 

1. He’s lonely

 

It is the human condition to want to be part of a pair. Being alone is, for many of us, not a comfortable place. So if a guy tells you that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, one of the reasons he’s keeps you around is that he is lonely.

 

As for you, you’re probably willing to let things keep going this way because, if you’re honest with yourself, you don’t enjoy being alone either.

 

So, if your guy keeps you around, even if he isn’t all in, it could very well be not because he wants you in particular, but because he doesn’t want to be alone.

He’s insecure

 

A guy who says he doesn’t want a relationship but keeps you around anyway is a guy who is most likely insecure.

A guy who is insecure has difficulty making clear decisions. He says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, but he then wavers, wondering if he’s made the right choice. He keeps hanging around, hoping things could be different, constantly second guessing himself and pulling you into his internal chaos.

 

Guys who are secure are more definitive in their decisions and more apt to follow through on them. The guy who is secure will make his decision and move in that direction.

 

Furthermore, a guy who keeps you around without a commitment could be a guy who feels insecure with his place in the world. Not being in a couple could make him feel even more unsafe and unwanted. The idea of trying to find another person to date is daunting and, as a result, he stays. Knowing you are into him makes him feel better about himself, even if it’s at your expense.

 

Is your guy insecure? If yes, that could be a big reason why isn’t willing to let you go, even if he isn’t willing to be fully committed to you either.

He likes sleeping with you

 

This will be no surprise to any of you. Guys want, no need, to have sex. When a guy says he doesn’t want a relationship with you but keeps you around, he could very well be doing so just for the sex.

 

I have a client who wanted a divorce from his wife and moved out. In spite of this, he regularly went back to their home and had sex with her. I asked him why and he said, ‘Why would I not take any opportunity to have sex?’

 

This man is a good guy, but he just didn’t understand that, for many women, sex is about emotional connection as much (or more) as about the physical act, which meant that by having sex with her was, he was unintentionally signaling to her that he might still want to make things work between them.

Once he understood that having sex with her was leading her to believe they had a chance, he stopped doing so. He wasn’t happy to be going without, but he knew he had to because he didn’t want to lead her on.

 

If your guy is still around, is he doing so for sex? Think about it.

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